Last week I was scrolling on Instagram and saw a post from a mom with five year old twins. The post caption was a conversation her twins were having in the other room. It went something like this:
One child to the other: I’m skinny.
Julie, you’re skinny, too.
Mommy is chubby.
I’m not sure why I’m always surprised when I hear small children demonstrate how aware they are of how people look. It happens all the time. Children are sponges, soaking in all the messages around them.
In our society we are being inundated with messages of how we ‘should’ look or messages that tell us we’re not ok if we don’t look a certain way. The messages are everywhere...in a multitude of ads, movies, song lyrics, magazines, tv shows, sometimes even from the people we love.
Some girls are beginning to diet as early as 9 and 10 years old.
We are not born thinking there is something wrong with our bodies. In fact, I think most grown women (or even teen girls) can remember a particular moment or time in their life when they realized their body was not ok. That somehow what they see in the mirror isn’t the way it “should” be.
These messages have deeply impacted me over the years. I have felt like I don’t fit in with other moms because I wasn’t as skinny as them.
I’ve felt like not going to the party because I didn’t find an outfit that fit well, let alone, that looked cute and I felt awesome in.
I developed some pretty harsh words that I’d say to myself about my body.
I’ve cried many tears because I didn’t look they way I thought I should and the way I wanted to.
I know I’m not alone.
I know women of just about every size, shape, and weight feel insecure about their bodies at some point, or at least feel like there are things they’d change about they way they look.
The diet industry is depending on it. It’s what keeps them in business.
Think of the time and energy we’ve spent on thinking negative thoughts about the way we look and hating every minute of every diet we’ve tried.
Now imagine for a minute... how different would your days and life be if I could wave a magic wand and you were no longer able to think negative thoughts about your body?
How much more could you get done with your time?
How much more could you accomplish in your life?
One of the biggest, best lessons of my life was learning I didn’t have to believe the crappy thoughts I had about myself and my body.
One of the most liberating lessons was learning how to change those thoughts to something more loving and kind.
I finally started taking huge steps towards being the women I want to be in this world when I started to love and accept myself just as I am. My life became much bigger and way more brave.
Showing my clients how to change their thoughts to something more loving and kind is one of my favorite parts of coaching.
Changing our thinking is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight, but when you learn how to manage your mind’s negative beliefs, you free yourself.
If you’re ready to silence your negative inner critic and learn to love your body exactly as it is, I invite you to join me in my Facebook group (click here to join!).
In the group we’re talking a lot about personal growth & taking care of ourselves, and you’ll find lots of encouragement and support from other amazing ladies and me. I hope to see you there!