Everywhere I look these days it seems like someone is talking about self care and self love. Even I have talked about these topics a lot!
With so much information available about taking care of ourselves, it’s easy to assume everyone knows how important it is and exactly how to do it.
Unfortunately, that’s not true.
Last year I had a client that was working hard to make changes in her life so she could feel better about her body. Of course, the topic of self care came up. I wanted to know what she was doing in the way of taking care of herself and how she was showing herself love.
There were a lot of physical reasons why it was difficult for her (like body aches and pains), so I asked her to name a list of things that bring her pleasure and joy that didn’t have anything to do with her physical body.
We continued the conversation and she finally admitted, “I don’t even know what you mean by self love! How do I do that?”
Then I asked her how she shows love to her husband, and she had no problem listing all the ways she does that. Can you relate?
This conversation instantly reminded me that a lot of women are not used to taking care of themselves, so much so, they don’t even remember how.
So, how do we connect to an idea that we’ve been divorced from for so long?
Well, let’s get real for a second.
Honestly, I’m getting kind of tired of hearing the terms self care and self love.
Sure, they’re important! It’s a huge part of what I teach as a coach. We all know how to care for and love the people in our lives. We know the concepts of ‘care’ and ‘love’ well.
But here’s the thing. We aren’t making it a priority for ourselves.
The bottom line is, we all make time for the things we think are important.
We make them a priority.
We bend over backwards to get those things done, especially if it’s for someone else.
So here’s my question...
What if we were as devoted to ourselves as we are to making things happen for other people?
What if we practiced self devotion? How might our lives be different then?
Being devoted to yourself is a choice.
We all know how we show love to our children, spouses, parents, or best friends. Self devotion is doing all those things for ourselves.
It’s listening to how you’re speaking to yourself. Would you say the things you tell yourself to your best friend?
It’s showing some affection for yourself and your body. Would you allow your children to skip a meal or eat junk food for a snack?
It’s making sure you have some pleasure that’s just for you in your day. Would you think your husband is crazy for taking 10 minutes to relax after he gets home from work?
I encourage you to think about all the ways you can be devoted to yourself each day and begin with one small thing. It will look different for each of us.
To help you get started, I’ve created a list of 35 ways you can nurture yourself and begin the practice self devotion.
Click here to get the list!