Should and Must

“Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.” ~Rumi

The Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle Luna is one of my ALL TIME FAVORITE books and resources! You NEED to read this book!

As the title suggests, it’s all about SHOULD and MUST.


I think nearly all of us have a list of things we do because we think we SHOULD. From choosing to get married or not, our careers, college, having children or know, all those MAJOR life choices. Those decisions are heavily influenced by our childhood, family, and our society.

If we aren’t aware of it, it’s easy to wake up one day with a day planned full of shoulds.

Then there’s MUST.

As Elle Luna describes it, “Must is who we are, what we believe, and what we do when we are alone with our truest, most authentic self. It’s that which calls to us most deeply. It’s our convictions, our passions, our deepest held urges and desires--unavoidable, undeniable, and inexplicable....Must is when we stop conforming to other people’s ideals and start connecting to our own--and this allows us to cultivate our full potential as individuals.”

Oh my goodness! THIS!!!

I feel like I’ve been working up to this for a while now, like figuring out what success means to me and understanding how much I set myself up to not enjoy the very things that matter most to me. I’ve been leaning into having more fun, too! I’ve also been wanting to better understand who I am without all the roles I play each day (like mom, wife, coach, daughter, etc), who I am when I’m alone to just be me.

Recently, when I was in New York City with my daughter, we visited the modern art museum. While we were there, I had this knowing that suddenly came over me. I loved being surrounded by all the colors, textures, and techniques for making art.

I’ve been to countless art museums before, but I realized in an instant who/what I am. Left just to myself, alone in the world, I am a maker.

Creating. Making. It’s my MUST!

I am most myself when I’m in the middle of making something with my hands. I’ve tried for so long to do all the things I thought I SHOULD do and then wondered why it always felt like something was missing. I was ignoring my MUST.

So what does this mean for me and my work?

The honest answer is I HAVE NO IDEA!

Sure, that’s a little scary, but I’m mostly SO EXCITED!! I’m excited to embrace this part of myself that makes me happiest. I’m excited to share the part of me that makes me, ME.

I’m excited for my work to focus on encouraging women to be creative and make time for the things they love and helping them discover who they are without all their many roles. I’m excited to share all the things I love about creativity...artists and other makers, books, projects. All of it!

So, I’m tossing all the rules of business aside, and I’m starting the journey of my MUST.

Joseph Campbell said, “If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it’s not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That’s why it’s your path.”

My first step is inviting you to come along on this journey with me! Even though I can’t see the entire path, exploring all of this is going to be so much fun!

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