There’s Nothing Magical About January 1st

"I've never seen any life transformation that didn't begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit." ~ by Elizabeth Gilbert


It’s always this time of year when I start reflecting on how the year has gone and I begin dreaming of all the things I want to accomplish in the new year. I LOVE this reflection time.

Today, I thought about all those years when what I was hoping for in the coming year was the same stuff I was hoping for the year before. Nothing had changed. I was still in exactly the same place.  

I remembered how many years in a row every birthday and every new year I would declare, ‘This is it! This is the year I’m going to get healthy. This is the year I’m going to lose the weight. I’m really serious this time.”

I seriously got tired of wishing for and wanting the same things every. single. year.

There were huge gaps between where I was and where I wanted to be in a lot of areas of my life...my weight, my jean size, how I spent my time, and how I felt in my own skin.

True to Elizabeth Gilbert’s quote, I eventually got tired enough of my own bullshit, and I started doing the work to make some real changes in my life. My relationship with food and my body was top on my list.

I knew I needed to do something different in order to get different results, so I hired a coach. Hands down, that decision was one of the best I’ve ever made for myself.  

We tackled my relationship with food, but we also covered so much more. We worked on changing my thinking, decluttering, creating more joy and pleasure in my life, eating mindfully, and moving my body.

Now, on the other side of it all, I’m so happy to be able to help other women do the same.

My dear, sweet friend, Lara Casey, taught me, “There’s nothing magical about January 1.”

It’s true. It doesn’t matter if you start today, next week, or January 1...nothing much will change until you begin making changes consistently.

The holidays are fast approaching, and there’s no better time to begin than now!
 

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That’s why I’m SUPER excited to be hosting a BIG giveaway in December! I’ll be giving away:

  • One three month 1:1 coaching package

  • One 2018 Powersheets Intentional Goal Planner by Lara Casey

  • One 2018 Get To Work Book calendar planner by Elise Blaha Cripe

  • Six spots in my virtual vision board workshop held in January

That’s NINE winners!!! You may think I’m crazy, but I just love this stuff and I want to make sure y’all are getting to enjoy my favorite resources!

The giveaways are happening in my Facebook group the week of December 11th.

Click the link below to sign up and fill out a short application (to help me with market research) and to be entered to win one of these 9 amazing prizes!

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My Favorite Five Resources That Helped Me Get Where I Am Now

I love learning. It’s one of the things that makes me happy.

The last seven years have been full of learning about myself and how to create a life that feels meaningful and happy. Sure, there have been times when it feels hard, but for the most part, it’s been so amazing to learn all I have. I’ve been exposed to many new people because of the work I’m doing on myself.

I definitely believe in the saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” I have remained open to learning from a variety of people and in a variety of ways. It’s been like following a trail of breadcrumbs...one person leads to another person, and to another that I wouldn’t have necessarily found on my own.

I’m so incredibly grateful for all the books I’ve read, the podcasts I’ve listened to, and the people I’ve worked with over these growing years. I decided early on in my coaching career that I want to be a resource for people. I want to share books, podcasts, people, and products I love with my clients and readers.

 

Here are five resources I love that I want you to know about:

Playing Big (the book and the program) by Tara Mohr

My very first foray into the self help world was finding Tara Mohr online. Finding her website felt like coming home. It was so inviting and calm, and her words spoke to me. I suddenly felt so understood and heard.

I found Tara before her amazing book, Playing Big, or her Playing Big program, but I took whatever offer she had at that time. It was my first experience working with a life coach and it was extremely impactful. I continued the journey with Tara after she developed her program, Playing Big, then later by reading her book by the same name.

Tara taught me that it’s possible to silence my inner critic and to lean into my callings. This is still a huge part of what I do every day with clients.

 

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

Big Magic is one of those books I feel should be required reading for all humans. There is so much goodness in there! Yes, it’s a book about creativity, but it’s also a book about living.

The universe buries strange jewels deep within us all, and then stands back to see if we can find them. The hunt to uncover those jewels--that’s creative living.

She goes on to say, “When I refer to “creative living,” I am speaking more broadly. I’m talking about living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than by fear.

Reading and internalizing that has changed me.

For a long time I felt there must be more to life than what I was experiencing. I knew I had something more in me, but I wasn’t sure what it was. I had a lot of different ideas of what I could do that might bring me more happiness and a bigger sense of fulfillment, but I was scared of making the wrong choice. I felt stuck because I was afraid to move forward with any one thing. What if it wasn’t the right thing?

Committing to Gilbert’s philosophy of following my curiosity helped me move forward with less fear of choosing wrongly.

 

The Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle Luna

Again, another book that I think should be required reading for every human. It’s all about callings and finding your way. Elle opens the book with the following words:

These pages are a pep talk to honor that voice inside of you that says you have something special to give. It’s a reminder that while there is no map for where you’re going, many have traveled this road before. It’s permission to unlearn everything you’ve ever been told you should do in order to learn what you must.

Reading that for the first time took my breath away! How often do we do things because we think it’s what we’re supposed to do?

For me, it was a lot! I had a continual nagging feeling that I had something more to do than what I was doing. This book was a step in that direction!

 

Make It Happen by Lara Casey

I devoured this book in 24 hours! It’s written in and highlighted with sticky tabs everywhere. I have to admit that I didn’t realize when I bought this book that it is in the Christian Life category.  But honestly, this book was exactly what I needed at the time I needed it most.

Lara tells a good bit about her story and her imperfect life, and she teaches us how to let go of fears, take the leap, and live on purpose with purposeful/meaningful goals. She is also responsible for teaching me about having a big picture vision for my life and setting goals accordingly. To help with doing that she also created...

 

PowerSheets by Lara Casey

PowerSheets are a great way to get clear on your goals and create smaller baby steps towards achieving them. I love using PowerSheets each year to keep me focused on what matters most to me! They help me review every month what has been working, what didn’t work, and what I want to focus on.

When I use my PowerSheets in conjunction with a planner, life feels easier and less frantic because I know what I need to be doing to make the life I want happen. I know I have a place to refer back to, so I don’t have to keep everything in my head.

There are so many other resources that have been helpful to me over the years, but these are favorites. I hope you take some time to check them out for yourself.

Do any of these resources resonate with you? What are some of your favorite books that have helped you along your journey?

I created a resource list for you! Click here to download a PDF with links to these books (and two others), plus a few of my favorite podcasts. Enjoy!

 

*The links provided here and in the PDF are affiliate links. This means there is no extra cost to you, but I receive a small commission if you buy the book using my link.

 

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Five Things I Want You to Know

It’s true that I spent a few years of my life struggling. I was unhappy and felt like I had no purpose. I was stressed, but I also felt shame around feeling so stressed when my life was pretty great.

I had done all the things I’d set out to do and all the things I thought I was supposed to do, but I was feeling unfulfilled and thinking, “There’s got to be more to life than this!” To keep from repeating myself, you can read the details of my story here

Obviously, I came out alive and well, but not before I did a lot of hard work on myself. This work falls into five main areas, and what you may not know, is these five areas are also the foundation of the work I do with my clients. Today I’m sharing those with you and how they impacted me.

 

Mindset

Your mind is a powerful thing. It can propel you forward and it can hold you back. One of the best things I ever learned was that I don’t have to believe all the crappy thoughts I think about myself.

We aren’t born thinking bad things about ourselves. Those thoughts are learned. The good news is, they can also be unlearned! It’s possible to let go of the negative thoughts we’re having and replace them with more positive, kind thoughts. Gosh, I’m wishing I’d learned this earlier in my life!

 

Pleasure and Self Care

When I was feeling unhappy, stressed, and unfulfilled, it was pretty hard to take care of myself. I didn’t eat well. I didn’t move my body. And I didn’t have a lot of pleasure in my life that was just for me.

Spending time learning how to care for myself and my body has made such an impact on my life. When I started taking care of myself it was easier to care for the people I love. I had more energy AND more patience.

Getting clear on what lights me up and brings me joy was a big deal for me. When I started incorporating those things into my life, even in small ways, I started feeling happier and more joyful.

 

Values, Goal Setting, and Living With Intention

Hands down, the things that have helped me understand my purpose are knowing my values and having a big picture vision for my life. Discovering these tools helped me set goals that matter, not just random goals without soul.

Having goals that come from my heart and that work towards the bigger picture of my life also helps me live life with intention. Now, every day I’m showing up with a plan. I’m creating the life I want instead of just letting life happen to me.

 

Loving Myself and My Body

I have to be honest, this was a tough one for me. I’ve learned mindset, pleasure, and self care all go into learning to love ourselves and our bodies. But there are other things, too, like our environment, moving our bodies, feeding ourselves in a healthy way, and finding clothes in our closet that we love and feel great wearing. Working on all this has helped me feel grateful for all my body can do and love my body exactly as it is.

I also used to hold myself to a set of standards I’d never expect of anyone else in nearly every area of my life. Learning to not be so hard on myself has helped to eliminate stress and let go of chasing perfection.

 

Creativity and Hobbies

Expressing my creativity has been the best way for me to have something in my life that’s just for me. They are a big part of what makes me, ME. They bring me JOY and give me an instant connection to other people with the same interests. You can read about my creative hobbies here.

I believe we are all creative beings, however, we’ve been taught that if we don’t do something well, like drawing, then we aren’t creative. There are so many ways to express creativity, and I love that it’s part of my life and my coaching practice.

 

Now that I’ve done this work on myself, and have become trained in this work, I love getting to show my clients how making even small changes in these areas can make a huge impact on their happiness. These are the pillars of my practice, and everything I share on my blog, in social media, and my newsletter directly correlates to one of these pillars.

I’m keeping the conversation going about each of these areas in my FREE Facebook group, Live Your Legacy Now

Join me there!  I’ll be sharing more of my own journey and there will be lots of connection with other awesome ladies. Plus there will be loads of FREE tools and support for you to start creating a more meaningful and joyful life. I hope to see you there!

 

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I show creative women how to reconnect with themselves and take care of themselves just as well as they take care of everyone else. If you've been feeling unfulfilled, I'd love to talk about how you can create a life you LOVE.

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When you gather a group of women together, magic happens. I believe we are better together. Head over to my FREE Facebook group, Live Your Legacy NOW, where there’s tons of inspiration, support, tips & tricks for creating a life that feels more bold and fulfilling and where you can begin to plan the legacy you want to create.